I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, so this is by no means intended as clinical advice. However, for me, facing my fears has been analogous to how innovation occurs.
Much like when innovators look to another discipline to learn how to solve a problem, I faced a totally unrelated fear to begin to overcome my most amplified phobia.
My fear of ego-death had been amplified beyond control – I had to say a food order ten times in my head before I could tell a waiter what I wanted for dinner.
I didn’t want to say something stupid; I didn’t want to be embarrassed.
This was a problem.
For some reason, the fear of ego-death was 50x worse than the fear of extinction or mutilation. Imagine that – it was much easier for me to face my own mortality than it was for me to feel shame.
Human minds are crazy.
Skydiving was a simple step for me to feel empowered enough to translate that confidence into other aspects of life.
Realizing my dream of skydiving gave me momentum to tackle other opportunities.
I now had a cool story.
As strange as it was, I felt less worthless, as I could add something of value to a conversation.
It was the first step in pushing my fears aside and taking control of my life. I now order with no problem and I’m an entrepreneur who is reliant on networking and presenting to succeed.
I’m not saying skydiving solved all of my problems, but it was a step in the right direction.
My voice still trembles when I speak in public for an extended period of time.
I researched this article way too much for the fear of saying something that was incorrect.
I fear to appear worthless, so I overcompensate and take on more work than I can handle at times.
Although this inherent fear of ego-death is still amplified in my personality, I was able to cut off the food source by facing an unrelated fear.